1800 Miles of Fear and Faith

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“It is not the strongest or the most intelligent who will survive, but those who can best manage change.” -Charles Darwin

 

For my return readers, the writing hiatus has been due to a lack of true moments to reflect. I’ve never been able to write just for the sake of writing. It has always had to come from somewhere deeper. It feels good to be here again. 

That brings us to now. My life has become increasingly overwrought in the last few weeks, forcing me to reflect or succumb to a nervous breakdown (dramatic). A long-distance marriage, grueling work/clinical weeks, rigorous course work, real estate decisions, anticipated relocation.  A lot of internal and external (sorry, Ben) turmoil.

I have spent the last year jumping from one item on the [never ending] list to the next in pursuit of my advancement in the nursing world. However in the past week or so, somewhere in the deep, distracted soul that is my own, I’ve tried to remember to inhale and become increasingly aware of every atom alive in me. What they need, what they yearn for. And now, I am attempting to embrace the last of the quiet nights spent alone in my tiny Tulsa apartment, curled on my side like a comma on the sofa. Reflecting.

To someone who has always felt somewhat defined by my ambition, big steps and change always cause me internal terror. What if this time is different? What if this time I can’t do it? What if this time the dream is too big? The self-doubt creeps its way in, and at times, it consumes me.

Soon, Ben and I will make a giant move across the country. A move that will start a new chapter for us both, professionally and personally. The 1,800 miles is paved with trepidation and risk. Not enough to scare me off, but in fact, to prove to myself how much I want it. To reassure my soul that this next step is part of our life’s journey. My heart is trying, albeit reluctantly, to keep my brain from flirting with the idea of taking the easy route.

Instead of giving in to playing small and living life with a safety net, the only way to get what I want in life is to live like I will. Like the success that all of this change will bring is a factual outcome, despite its certain ambiguities.

The reality is that we all need to be thrown into the chaos that our minds and souls create when uncertainty approaches. Whatever the circumstance may be. We need those raw moments, because it is within them and the shadows that they create, we are given the solitude to center ourselves. In every unsure moment of our lives, there is a point where inner knowledge overrides the fear and transforms it into self-faith. 

 

        This faith chases out the fear.

This faith grows and blooms within our hearts until our minds have forgotten that fear even existed, or what it felt like to be held back by our self-doubt. We simply forget to fear anything, because we have not only made the choice for radical trust in ourselves, but also to fully embrace the unknown.

(That last part, for me, is a continued work in progress)

-L

About this blog and it’s author

I started this blog back in 2011 when I was 20.  A lot happened before then, and a lot has happened since.  I am coming up on my 6 year anniversary of my blog, I decided I needed a new site (also because of an increase in annoying formatting issues..blah blah blah).  You can find all my original blog posts  from 2011-2016 at www.lizattemptingambition.blogspot.com  

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This post was originally published 8/23/11 at the start of my blogging adventure 

When I was 5 I snuggled up in my twin bed with my Disney Princess comforter and had the most vivid dream I can remember.  I was on my pink bike, with the white basket and handle bar ribbons. I was speeding down my street with the wind blowing my knotty, should have been brushed, brown hair…………..WITH NO TRAINING WHEELS!


The next morning (6 or 7 in the morning) I defiantly woke my dad and told him to take off the training wheels. I was certain I was going to learn to ride that bike. I explained to my dad that it had to be just like the dream or it wouldn’t work. He humored me and made me waffles and my mom didn’t brush my hair. We went outside and he grabbed his tool box and headed for my bike. The wheels were off, just like that. I hopped on the seat and my dad grabbed my seat and put one hand on my back an I began to pedal. With a soft push from my dad, I was on my own. 


Most kids fall the first few times, but for some reason I didn’t. I pedaled slow at first and then faster until the wind was blowing my hair, my dad cheered as I turned around in the neighbors driveway and made my way back without as much as a falter in my technique. I can’t describe the feeling that I had as I was reliving my dream there in front of my home in Portage Des Sioux, MO, but I can tell you I knew I was going to ride that bike and it was all because of a dream.

Since that Spring day in 1996 none of my other dreams have become reality to that extent. I can not see into the future, nor do I believe that is what happened. It was not because I dreamed it. It was because at the sweet age of 5 I had the ambition to make it true. I am still, after many hardships in my young life, “attempting ambition”. I firmly believe that if you are ambitious about something only good can come from it. So if you get nothing else out of my writings get this; BE AMBITIOUS ABOUT EVERYTHING, the people you love, the things you do, the values you hold, and above all, always be ambitious about your dreams. 

I hope you enjoy reading my blog as much as I have enjoyed writing it

-L